I have learned so much from my mother. She has influenced my life more than I'd like to admit. I have even learned from her mistakes. This Mother's Day, I wanted to share a few things she taught me that I feel anyone could benefit from.
1. TRANSPARENCY IS IMPORTANT
My mother is the definition of an open book. From the time I was young, she has spoken to me like an adult and unashamedly shared her mistakes, regrets and lessons learned. Instead of instilling a 'don't share your business with everybody' attitude, she taught me that there was a freedom in sharing things that others may find shame, guilt, or embarrassment in. As I got older, I carried this same quality with me, unafraid to tell people about how the experiences I had and the mistakes I made shaped me and helped me to grow. My mother being open and honest with me, showed me how to be open and honest with her and others.
One thing that sets my mother apart from other people is her giving heart. When she sees people on the streets asking for change, when she sees that someone is promoting a GoFundMe, or when an organization is asking for donations, she doesn't stop and come up with reasons why they may not deserve her money. If she has it, she gives it. She taught me that, when you give with pure motives, without wondering what's in it for you, it always comes back to you tenfold. Anytime that I would have reservations about giving, she would remind me not to operate in fear that the giving wouldn't be worth it. This concept also showed me how strong her faith was, she truly believes that God takes care of her and that He believes that using what He gave her to take care of or help others will always be honored. Giving is about your heart, not the specifics of what the other person needs, wants, or does with what you give them.
3.EVERYONE HAS THEIR 'STUFF'
My mother instilled in me from a very young age that everybody has something they are dealing with. When people hurt you, it is a result of something within them and it's not personal. As I grew up and dealt with mean people at school, romantic relationships or rude people in line at the store, I was always reminded of this truth. Understanding this simple yet foundational concept of life allowed me to love people more freely and be un-offended when they didn't love me back. It taught me how to exercise and extend grace to everyone in my life. By teaching me this, my mother instilled in me the importance of having a heart for people regardless of how they treat you or what your relationship with them is.
These three things are just the tip of the iceberg of the many valuable lessons that my mother taught me. I hope that you learned something yourself and please leave a comment about something your mom taught you in life. Happy Mother's Day!
My parents have a great podcast where they talk about may things they've been teaching me for years! Make sure you check it out!